Today’s blog entry is more of a diary entry, full of questions and not many answers…
As part of my 100 Happy Days Challenge, I am going to be doing a negativity cull in all areas of my life. In ‘How to be Happy’ by Eva Woods, the 2 main characters take on this task and their results do wonders for them. Yes, I am aware that this is a fiction book, but, also one of the best self-help books I have read in a long time.
I know a cull isn’t always the answer, but by reducing the negativity and clutter in your life, you are allowing room for positive and free energy. Its in these environments where you get ideas, have time to think, and are able to clear your thoughts.
I appreciate that as you get older, life gets harder. There are bills to pay, jobs to go to, relationships and friendships to maintain, sleep to have, and the constant reminder that there is badness all over the world. I also appreciate that each person has their own personal battles, whether that be with loss, infertility, heartbreak or many other reasons.
Because of all of the above, I am slowly learning the importance of minimising negative influences and creating an environment that is our safe place and somewhere where our future kids can be happy, because we are too.
We don’t realise what our mood does to others, no matter how hard we try and conceal it. Young children in an unhappy home will be able to sense negativity and it will impact their future relationships. Colleagues at work may keep their distance as they don’t get the support they need and friends may distance themselves as they feel helpless. In my recent blip, I pushed away my boyfriend and wouldn’t let him in. Thankfully he is a true keeper and stuck by me. I noticed when my mood was low, I brought him down with me. The same with my friends. I don’t want to be that person. Seeing the people I care about having fun, and laughing is what I want, and being the one that takes that away from them has given me this recent awareness of how I can be better.
Mental health is a trending topic at the moment, but, I don’t think anyone actually stops to evaluate their own properly. We all say we are depressed or anxious, but are we really? I know depression comes in all forms, but if we really evaluated ourselves would we say that? Or would we acknowledge that life can be a bitch sometimes, but actually, things are going okay? I was diagnosed with depression 2 years ago, but I wonder if I had access to the tools and supportive people that I have now, if I would still be battling the dark cloud now. I don’t have these answers, but I am hoping by changing my outlook, I will see the answer more clearly.
My cull will consist of the usual things:
- Negative ‘friends’ on social media
- Those clothes that I will one day, hopefully, fit in to again
- Clutter that I may just need one day
I will also make lists of every ares of my life and what is good, what is bad, and how I can change them.
These are just small steps, and a little autumn clean, but I honestly believe the way to seeing clearly is to get rid of the junk in all areas of our life.
I don’t know how I will measure this, but I will follow up in 1 month with how I think my negativity cull has gone!